I love how social media literally connects us with the world, allows us to stay in contact with old acquaintances & aides in making us more global citizens. For all its greatness, the truth is it creates a false sense of reality and we think we know the intricacies of someone's life by what they choose to post.
This was a post I was prompted to make on Instagram this past weekend after much care and thought because I am literally SHOCKED that people feel like we owe them an explanation about the choices that we as grown adults have made, are making, and will make. I was literally SHOCKED that people I barely talked to when living on the same campus feel the need to ask for more clarification. I sat with this because we all know Niecy's sarcasm can often come off as just plain rudeness, but the more I sat with it the more absurd it seemed. So you have questions? Great. So you wonder what is going on? Fine. To actually voice those questions and expect a response and the most we've shared is through social media - ridiculous.
Then I started thinking, because that's what I do, about what it is that makes people feel comfortable asking questions, and in a public forum at that, like they are exposing some hidden truth. What is it about social media that makes us feel so connected that we want to know more? We want to dig behind the pictures and statuses to the details.
This is a new part of our consciousness. Social media is a big part of our lives. For all intent purposes, I feel like I am pretty selective about what I choose to post and share. Yes - participating in social media is a choice. Instead of being completely like "I can't believe she just asked that", I had to take a step back and look at my choices. I choose to participate in social media. I choose to participate in a global community. I choose to open up and live a life of transparency through my blog to help and inspire others. These are my choices. So on some level - I own it. I own the questions. I own the inquiries. On some level, however, it brings up so many questions for me. The people who feel like they need to ask questions or not judge are not the wonderful people who I network with through social media. They are the people who I know. Not close friends but acquaintances. They are people who know my story but yet aren't satisfied with what we choose to share. They are the ones who want more...and on some level feel the right to ask for it.
What are your thoughts about the false illusion social media can create? Do you have any stories to share?
So I ended my IG post with this:
Those who really know me know every step I take is ordered by much thought, more prayer, and even greater surrender.
The truth is, those who really know me don't have to ask for the story. They already know.