It was just a year ago when I took this picture. Munchkin and I were visiting Baltimore for Spring Break and Dave and I took him to Washington DC. It was while taking this picture that I learned a valuable lesson.
I was taking this picture when a woman asked me if I wanted her to take a picture of the three of us. Without hesitation I replied "no, that's ok."
We spent the rest of the day sightseeing and getting completely poured on by torrential rains. When we got back to the car and on the road to Baltimore I made a comment that I should have let the woman take a picture of us. I regretted that without even processing it I immediately dismissed the idea of a taking a family photo. David told me he noticed and wanted to say something but didn't want to cause a "Niecy turn-up." Whatever that means.
I silently vowed to myself that day that I would never deny my son the opportunity to see his parents together. My son deserved photos with both his parents too.
As this journey would have it, Dave and I go through seasons. We always find a way to come together for our son, but to be honest there are times I'd rather just not talk to him let alone take a picture with him. So vowing to make sure we do those small family things is a commitment. I say this because I want you to know this doesn't come easy. It takes grace, love, and work.
We happen to be in a good season where it's coming easier, so when Munchkin became obsessed with the idea of throwing a party for his dad's birthday this year, I called his dad and asked him how we could make that happen. Plus, it would be his last weekend of basketball and he deserves to have his dad at his games just like other kids. Thankfully, we made it happen.
So last weekend, as I said I would do, we took a family picture on the way to church. Munchkin was acting shy to take a picture - I actually think he has alterior motives - but according to the response on social media, people were happy to see this side of us. I was so entertained by the numerous calls and texts I got asking if we were reuniting. Someone asked me if we were getting close again because they saw Dave open my door. I just love ya'll. You've been my greatest cheerleaders.
Here's what I have to say. My son deserves to see his parents happy together - whether we are married or just friends. My son deserves to see his mother respected and his father respected. My son deserves to learn from his father how to open doors for ladies and be kind. We can do this for each other and for him without being married.
I'm not sure I would have taken this approach had I not regretted saying no to that picture last year in DC. I may have been too concerned about what others may think or the fact that in a few months Dave and I may be out of season again.
I'm glad I learned the lesson.
While everyone is hash tagging their life, we will hashtag ours too! #theoriginalteamlunn
Be happy...be merry. Be.