Last week we started a new sermon series at my church called Unbreakable Family. I can't tell you personally all the reasons the timing of this series are perfect for me and my family but it is.
I hadn't intended to write about the series but several friends in my social spaces have asked for me to share the notes. So I'm glad to have a reason to review my own notes and dig a little deeper.
The first week was about values and Pastor Galen asked us what kind of values do you live by in your home? One of the things I valued so much about this message is that it aligned so well with what I teach parents on a weekly basis. The idea that we are the temperature gauge in our homes. We as the parents set the tone. We are the ones who direct the way our family goes. So many times I meet parents who want us to "fix" their kids and what I always hear is "help me grow up." The question "what kind of values do you live by in your home" is one we all need to ask ourselves. If we can't definitively answer that question, how can we expect our kids to know what values to live by?
We as parents must be engaged in our children's lives now more than every. We must be active. We must be full force parents. The scripture reference was from Deuteronomy 6. The Lord says "you and your children and grandchildren must fear the Lord your God." We are talking about generational legacies here.
So here are the key points of last week's sermon:
1. Parents must learn to live right. You can't lead where you've never been.
We as parents are the leaders of our homes. We have practice what we preach. This is what I tell parents in my parenting class who just want us to fix their children. I ask them what their child's behavior is asking them about themselves? We can't lead where we've never been. We can't preach what we don't practice. We can't resolve what is unresolved in us.
2. Parents must learn to love right (Deut 6:4-5).
The House of God must be a value in your life. We are molded by the Word of God. We must show our children how much we love God and foster their love of God.
3. Parents must learn right (Deut 6:6-9).
The Word of God set us free. The Word of God and the values that come from it lead our children to success. Do your children know what you stand for? Deuteronomy instructs us to talk with our children about the Word and the values in the Word, day and night.
We have the greatest opportunities to invest in our kids now, while they are in our homes. Let's not let it pass us by.
Pastor Galen closed by asking "do your kids look at you and say mom and dad are who they say they are?" That is a poignant question that should challenge each of us.
I loved this message because it was confirmation for me as a mother to be better and also a confirmation of what I know and believe and the role I step into weekly to teach other parents how to lovingly raise and connect with their children. We must "see" our children. We need to set down our iphones, turn the tv off, and be present in the room with our kids. It is when we see our children that they felt seen. This is how our children know they are incredibly valued in our sight. It starts small but has a huge impact.
I hope you have a beautiful week building your unbreakable family.
Watch week 1 here and I hope to see you at service today!